Sep 2, 2026
What is killing the sexual intimacy in your marriage?
For many couples, intimacy doesn't disappear overnight. It slowly gets pushed aside. Resentment builds. Schedules get packed. Phones get more attention. Conflict goes unresolved. Emotional connection begins to disappear.
And eventually, what happens outside the bedroom starts affecting what happens inside it.
In Episode 310 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp discuss five common sex killers that can damage physical and emotional intimacy in marriage: bitterness, busyness, technology, unresolved conflict, and emotional neglect.
In this episode, we discuss:
A healthy sex life isn't only about what happens in the bedroom.
How you speak to each other matters. How you handle conflict matters. How much attention you give each other matters. Whether your spouse feels emotionally connected to you matters.
If physical intimacy has become difficult, infrequent, or nonexistent in your marriage, don't only focus on sex. Look for what may be happening underneath the surface.
What is creating distance between you? What resentment hasn't been addressed? What conflict hasn't been resolved? What has become more important than your relationship? And when was the last time your spouse genuinely felt pursued by you?
Whether you're currently struggling with sexual intimacy or simply want to protect the connection you already have, this episode will help you identify some of the biggest threats to intimacy and begin doing something about them.
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